Making Time for Mindfulness

When thinking of ways to improve our health, our minds automatically turn to eating better, sleeping more, and (finally) putting that gym membership to good use. To help us improve our chances of success this holiday season, life-style as medicine expert and Chief Science Officer of Wisdom Labs Parneet Pal suggests revamping our list of New Year’s resolutions by including a few often overlooked but essential ingredients to better health.


We tend to confuse compassion and empathy, and with good reason – they both involve the ability to put ourselves in other people’s shoes and feel what they’re feeling. The key difference between the two is that compassion also includes a strong motivation to improve the other’s wellbeing and alleviate suffering. As Parneet puts it, “Empathy (feeling pain) can enervate. Compassion (taking action) energizes.”

Compassion is a skill that we are all born with, but one that needs to be exercised over time. Should you find yourself stuck in a difficult situation during the holidays, Parneet recommends practicing compassion by silently sending wishes of good will to those around you. When we do this, our heart rate and breathing slow down, moving us from the “fight and flight” stress response to a calmer, more loving and connected state. This priming of our neural networks then makes it more likely that we will take appropriate action to help reduce the suffering we are seeing in others and ourselves.

Meaningful connections

Research has shown that another ingredient vital to good health (and one that may even lengthen our lifespan) is connecting with others in meaningful ways. Even in today’s hyper-connected world, doing so can be difficult; one study showed that one in four Americans are unable to name someone they consider a close friend. Such feelings of loneliness and isolation lead to a higher risk of anxiety and depression. On the cellular level, the body responds to these feelings with inflammation and decreased immunity, which are known precursors to chronic disease.

For our more introverted readers, the good news is that it’s not about the number of social connections we have, but our perceived sense of how connected we feel from within. To help cultivate close relationships, Parneet recommends bringing your whole self to conversations – whether at the next holiday party or around the dinner table. Rather than compose a mental list of brilliant responses to the topic at hand, simply relax and listen carefully. Doing so makes the person you’re speaking to feel seen and heard, and more likely to return the favor. “Try this out with family and friends this holiday season – and see how it changes the quality of the conversations and emotions in your relationships,” Parneet suggests.


According to TEDMED 2015 speaker Judson Brewer, mindfulness techniques can help quell unhealthy cravings (stay tuned for his talk release!). But, to many of us who are all too familiar with racing minds and long to-do lists, the idea of making time to practice mindfulness seems far-off at best. Parneet tells us that the problem is that we’re so caught up in the past (or future) that we function on “autopilot” in the present. Especially during the rush of the holiday season, we’re constantly and chronically under stress – which is not only harmful for our health, but also results in poor decision making, emotional turbulence and limits access to perspective, ideas, and insights.

When talking about mindfulness, “practicing” is the operative word. Just as we exercise our bodies, we train our brains. The first step to mindfulness is to keep your breath in mind, as much as you can, throughout the day. This simple act of remembering your breath, pivoting your attention to it and following it in and out – for one second, one minute or more – begins to strengthen our attention networks. The stronger our ability to pay attention to the present moment, the less susceptible we are to emotional triggers.

For meltdown moments, Parneet recommends taking the following steps for a little bit of Holiday S.O.S.:

Place your hand on your heart (this triggers the release of oxytocin, an anti-stress hormone) and connect with the sensations of the body – the warmth of your hand, the rise and fall of your chest, the feeling of resting in your body fully. Take three, slow, nourishing deep breaths. Ask yourself: “what is the most loving, compassionate thing I can do right now – for myself and those around me?” Then act on

Over the holidays, we at TEDMED will be taking Parneet’s advice as we nurture our relationships and make time to unplug, rest and recharge. We hope you do the same. In the meantime, be on the lookout as we share a just a few of the year’s most relevant talks – and make sure to register for TEDMED 2016 before January 1st to take advantage of our special ticket price. We’d love to have you join us.

From all of us at TEDMED, happy (and healthy) holidays!

Visionaries: Elissa Epel on why toxic stress is public health enemy #1

Elissa Epel

TEDMED 2011 speaker Elissa Epel, a UCSF psychologist, has studied the health impacts of stress, from its effects on our DNA to its relationship to overeating, for two decades.

Q Some of your research has centered on the way that stress hormones contribute to increasing our drive to eat, particularly high-carbohydrate and high-fat “comfort foods.” To what degree is stress contributing to our national obesity crisis, in your opinion?

EE We can’t quantify exactly how big of a role stress plays. It could be huge. It’s invisible and it’s easy to ignore; it’s pervasive. Most of us have gotten so used to living in a matrix of stress – time pressure, demands, rushed social interactions, rushed eating – that we don’t even notice it. So we might not realize how stressed our body really is. But the effects of stress can still stimulate our appetite, and shift us to choosing more ‘white food’ – what we call “comfort food,” – high-calorie, high-fat food. This promotes metabolic disease because it causes us to store calories in the visceral area and liver. And that stored fat is at the core of many chronic diseases, not just diabetes.

Q I was surprised to see your study showing educational attainment is also related to telomere length. What might the mechanisms for that be?

EE That relationship is multi-layered and needs to be unpacked. One common theme in trying to understand health disparities is testing whether part of it stems from  greater stress exposure or reactivity over a lifetime. For example, the effects of more years of education early in life can be seen decades later, in longer telomere length. Higher education, or maybe it’s the quality of education, can create an infrastructure in the brain for more adaptive coping – it can help with strengthening what we call ‘executive function’ –which helps us think clearly under stress.

Conversely, there are many active ingredients in the milieu of low socioeconomic status that cause wear and tear. Interestingly, though, perception can play a large role here. We have measured this by giving people a picture of a ladder and asking them to place themselves on a rung (the bottom rung being the lowest status).  Rating oneself as low, regardless of actual income or education, relates to poor adaptation to stress.  Specifically, when given the same task to do in the lab, people low on the ladder reacted hotly each time, as if it were new, instead of habituating to it. There is also the built environment of low socioeconomic status, which doesn’t leave opportunities for buying healthy food and places for exercise or safe walking. And the built environment can feed back and affect how people feel.  For example, fewer parks or more liquor stores predict a decreased feeling of neighborhood trust and cooperation.

Q There seems to be a big disconnect between what people know is good for their health, and their actual behaviors. Is mindfulness – focusing on what we’re doing right now, in the present moment – the missing link, do you think?

EE I think that’s right on. We can’t possibly regulate our behavior and feelings, and suppress those pesky but strong impulses and other distractors, if we are not paying attention. In a high-stress environment, our brain activity shifts toward the limbic system and the emotional stress response, and away from the parts of the pre-frontal cortex that house executive control systems, the rational and analytical drivers of our behavior. So we react automatically and impulsively when we are under stress and not paying full attention.

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And even if we are focusing a lot of effort on eating better or exercising, but in a really self-critical way, this can sabotage our efforts as well. Very few people meet their exercise, sleep, and nutrition goals each day. So mindful attention includes both an intention and a kind attitude, and these help clear our mind of unhelpful or intrusive thoughts, and improve our ability to carry out our intentions.

Eating is an interesting example of a behavior that is not under our full conscious control, although we have not admitted that yet. Eating is something that we can do without paying attention. Otherwise, if it took focus and effort, that wouldn’t be part of adaptive evolution. Overeating is related to stress but also altered neurobiology of the reward system, the source of our strongest motivational drives. This reward area responds to palatable food. This can drive compulsive behavior that feels out of control, an experience similar to being a drug addict for some people. We have to better understand how powerful certain types of foods can be, and that certain conditions, including stress, make people especially susceptible.

In some of our studies, we are trying to help low-income people who feel very little control over their life, with their weight. We are teaching mindfulness to pregnant women, and it looks like the training might be helping not only them but also their babies. We have to think of ‘stress reduction’ where it matters most – which includes the womb. Prenatal stress exposure can affect a child’s health for a long time, possibly a lifetime. For example, mothers who have experienced major stresses while pregnant have offspring with shorter telomeres.

Q One of many intriguing facts you mentioned in your TEDMED 2011 talk was that technology can actually increase stress in various ways. At the same time, we’re seeing a slew of new apps aimed at helping us to calm down.

EE I think mobile apps for stress reduction are a fabulous potential use of technology, if they really work. For example, we could be using our mobile phones to remind us to rejoin with the moment, and to breathe fully, to notice our physical body and become embodied again. We live mired in our thoughts, above the neck, and this is made worse by multitasking.

But technology devices can become part of multitasking, thus adding to the strain on our limited attention, splitting it yet one more way. There are a lot of wellness apps out there, but I also think that we need data. Almost none of them are evaluated so although they seem promising, do people really benefit from them in a way that would lead to meaningful change? This is a powerful way to reach people, and I admit that even I am involved in an effort to test a stress reduction app!

There are so many answerable questions: Can we take people deeper into a meaningful life, or do these technology interventions contribute to fractured attention and more shallow social interactions? Do people stick with them? Do the apps make a dent in chronic stress arousal over time? As a society we desperately need stress reduction. Let’s hope we can use technology to get there.

Q If you had the power to enforce one public health measure based on your research, what would it be?

EE Public policy makers try to use their resources well to help people, but don’t always think about how to make policy motivating to an individual, nor take into account fundamental causes of societal and individual stress. Stress is caused by a perception of lack of control and unpredictability. Policymakers can promote empowerment, helping disadvantaged people gain a sense of control over their daily life.  Social scientists understand which social and structural factors need to change to help individuals change.

A main message of research today, from epigenetics in basic models to epidemiology, is that adult health is shaped early in life, in important ways we can no longer ignore. So resources are best spent early in life, with the goal of promoting good health and habits, and preventing disease. Good quality education is critical, particularly for girls. It directly translates to better health behaviors and eventually health for the next generation. Resources are just much less effective when applied to diseases that are incurable and costly to manage. Our money is spent in an unbalanced and illogical way. We skimp on education — particularly in California — and spend a tremendous amount of money and time trying to cure incurable diseases such as obesity. Instead, we spend big money on bariatric surgery and costly band-aid procedures.

Q Has your research changed any of your own personal or work habits?

EE It has, but only in an incremental way over many years. I have been studying the field of stress for almost 20 years, so I know all too well what we should be doing, and how my behaviors such as curtailing sleep and having too many demands placed on me affects my daily physiology, and cellular stress. Does that mean I get enough sleep, exercise, meditate every day, keep work manageable, and prioritize the things that are most meaningful, versus the most urgent? No. I am closer to that than I used to be, and maybe in another stage of life… I still experience plenty of challenging situations, and have my reactions, but now in a more mindful way, and that is a qualitatively different experience. Like most people, I am a work in progress.

–Interview by Stacy Lu